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Marriage is love.

Has it been that long?

Well, I look on the blog and apparently the last time I wrote was back in June. So, either it's quite difficult to have a baby at home or I'm just lazy. You decide. My sisters turned 42 last week. If anything makes you realize your own age more than your own birthday, it's your siblings. So, that reminds me that my 30th birthday is coming up at the end of this month. I will be 48 when Beckett graduates from High School. Really not all that bad in the grand scheme of things. My own parents were even a bit older than that. It just makes me wonder if Beckett being a toddler (someday soon) will make me feel younger or older. Having to chase after a 2-year old can be quite tiring and if I think that I'm tired now, just wait!

The 4th of July didn't bother Beckett a bit, but it bugged the heck out of the dog. Spike (www.dogster.com/?138056) was terrified and slept with us for 2 nights. I don't understand the point of drinking and setting off explosives. To me, it's just not fun. We've decided that we need to start taking Beckett to the real fireworks shows as a young'un, then he'll just think the ones you set off on your own are stupid.

My last bit for the day - Beckett has taken to screaming at night. Not crying, not fussing - SCREAMING! At the top of his lungs, in that ear piercing way. I don't know if it's some of his colic left over or what, but he won't let you comfort him. In fact, I don't think he even knows he's being held when he's screaming. The only thing that will quiet him down is food. I know, not a good habit to start, but I don't know what else to do. Any advice would not be unsolicited.

Have a great day... I know our family will.

The Zoo

Beckett made his first trip to the zoo last week. He slept through most of it, but woke up somewhere near the otters. Which is interesting because Otters are my favorite animal at the zoo. We went to Pt Defiance Zoo and Aquarium in Tacoma. They have a great new Kids Zone with activities and a petting zoo. I put Beckett's feet in the water at the fountain. I'm not sure he knew what to do with that. Yes, I know he's too young to even remember it later on, so truly the zoo visit was for us. But as a family, we all had a good time. A few days ago he also rolled over for the first time. He hasn't done it since though. My theory is that he's done it once, so why do it again. "All right, I know I can do that now - next!" But wait - there's more. It's been an even bigger week. His first little tooth began to break through his bottom gum. He can't be our little toothless joe anymore. He'll need to be a one-toothed joe. Of course, we didn't discover the little bugger of a tooth until late last night after he'd been nothing but a cranky pants all day. He just wouldn't nap all day. Luckily, he's still sleeping through the night though. Thank goodness for small miracles.

Our Family

Blogging for LGBT Families

Today, is Blogging for LGBT Families day. Basically, the short story is that a short bit ago I discovered a great website: http://www.mombian.com/ . They declared today, June 1, 2006 as Blogging for LGBT Families day. Today falls exactly in the middle of Mother's day and Father's day. It is a day to educate others as to exactly who we are when we are both.

Sometimes, in this great, big straight world I feel alone. Yes, I am part of a bigger population of mothers and parents, but in our lives, we do not have a lot of LGBT parents. This is something I’m trying to change, but it isn’t easy. Luckily Beckett was born very close to the Pride Season. Therefore, if we hang out long enough at almost any pride event, we’re bound and determined to run into someone that we might get along with. In the meantime, we’ll continue to surround ourselves with allies. Even then, the answers to the questions don’t come easily.
Q - who’s baby is it? A – ours
Q – who is the father? A- no one
Q – doesn’t he need to see men to understand how to be one A- do you need to see assholes to understand how to be one?

P.S. I’ve never gotten up the nerve to actually answer the third question that way. It’s just what the little voice in my head answers.

Beckett has some amazing role models in his life. Strong moms, resilient grandmas, handy and loving grandpas, fashionable uncles – he’s luckier than a lot of babies with both a mother and a father. Eventually, Katie will legally adopt him and then hopefully we’ll have more of the legal recognition that is vitally important. Until then, we’re just a family that happens to have two moms and we will fight tooth and nail to be recognized as such with or without two names on a birth certificate.

Our First Post

Not much to say to begin with. This is the first post about the Boys in Our Life. My lovely wife and are outnumbered 5 to 2 in our household. Between the 2 male dogs, 2 male cats and our beautiful baby boy, we hardly stand a chance. Beckett is almost 4 months old. Beckett is the baby not the dog or the cat. About a month ago we moved to Olympia and couldn't ask for more. We absolutely love it here.